advice versus reality.
what kind of information I give and what kind of decision a client makes based on that could be two very distinct things, I’ve learned. I’ve had women ask me about the same doomed relationship over and over again. sometimes I say straight up, “why are you still in this? it’s clear from the spread that you have nothing left in it.” but I get it, sometimes there is still something left for you to learn from a relationship so it lingers around, and it’s harder to get rid of. but it actually takes people a while to start being conscious about how the relationship is not serving them well, to actually bring themselves to the point where they decide to close that door. it’s not just limited to their significant others, it’s also when it comes to close family, relatives, friends, or even co-workers.
I am actually more of a determinist than a free-will advocate. I do believe in both, but I think there are fates that you cannot change. I think the reason why we gravitate towards the predicted outcome is also because it requires herculean strength for us to change the patterns of the way we do things, so it ends up being same as the predicted trend on a chart or say, cards. I think how you get to point A is all up to you and what you do on your way there is all up to you but in the end you do get to point A. that is what I believe in. I’ve read for all sorts of people; atheists, atheists who feel the need to preach their atheism(to a tarot reader, no less), christians, buddhists, pantheists like me, open and agnostic. the degree of our beliefs in free will and our ability to change certain outcome in life, let alone a relationship that faces us in our lives, all differs. but ultimately we probably do all agree that there is a reason why a certain information was revealed to each of us. there must be something critical we can learn from that information, or some tiny, miniscule effect that the information is going to have on the future event, like little waves pushing one another up to the shore. and whether that was already determined or not, I think we can always do our best to change our lives for the better with such given information, if we’re not all just going to give up and die right now. which is why when I hear, “I feel like I can’t resist from this relationship; I feel like he/she is my responsibility, I can leave him/her,” I answer with, yes you can. you can close that door. and we may not be able to argue if that was also fate, as in predetermined or not, but we still have the power to change our lives. and again whether that power itself and the changes we make in our lives are fate or not is a secondary matter to us humans. that is how I view it. there is a time in life when you are given the willpower to close that door. close it and walk away. make room for another door to open for you in your life.
